Are You A Shadow Dancer Who Is Ready To S.H.I.N.E.?
Guidance To Overcoming Your Resistance
We have all been there. A new idea, project, course or opportunity presents itself and it seems like finally the Law of Attraction is working. Sound familiar? I am a reformed Master of Resistance. I have been in your shoes, but I have not walked that mile or two that would truly let me know what challenges or inspires you. Therefore, let’s journey together, side by side, for a little while and see what transpires.
Were you Born to Serve?
At the heart of a true life-inspirer is the pulse of wanting to be of service. Let’s be clear on this. While you may have a particular offering that you feel passionate about delivering to others, it does not mean that you sacrifice your life and become subservient for the sake of others benefit. You know if you were born to serve the good of others if you can answer Yes to at least three of these statements:
1. You feel drawn to a non-traditional career or employment such as being a therapist, carer or educator.
2. You can recall numerous times when your time was given to helping others rather than seeing to your own list of jobs to do.
3. Others reply on you for help or to provide guidance regularly.
4. You have a creative side that perhaps you have not fully developed.
5. You tell yourself that ‘one day’ you will have time for You.
Going by how many of the above statements ring true for you tells you the degree to which your soul needs to find appreciation and identity through being in-service to others. This piece of awareness can help inform your direction and life choices and it can also be a point from which to develop the other sides of your character and your individual needs. If your life path seems highlighted by many moments of ‘if I only had the time to do ….’, then today could well be the day that things start to change for you. Read on…
So often, when there is a greater calling waiting for us, we hold ourselves in a place of justifiable comfort. This means that we stay within established role in life that is rewarding enough and relatively easy to manage instead of tapping into our courage and creativity to step into what would really make our heart sing. We might tell ourselves that it is necessary to stay in the role or life situation we find ourselves because:
- It is safe
- It brings the money in reliably
- It is what others expect from us and we don’t want to let them down
- We wouldn’t be supported if we changed
- It might mean risks that could prove too challenging
- It serves our need to be liked, loved or recognised
- It is too late to change ‘at this age’
- That we don’t have the skills or knowledge or finances to support perusing the path that really feels right
Do you have any other reasons, you could add to this list?
Shadow dancing, as I call it is the act of staying in a particular role or on a certain path with the knowledge deep within your heart and soul that there is a greater calling waiting within you to be heard. The voice that would like to be heard represents the essence of their soul’s journey which is capable of enriching their life path. For many, all too often this voice has been silenced long ago. However, the magical thing is that it can be awakened at any moment. The key is to be willing to listen.
What is Resistance?
The scenario is one of universal similarity. You have an idea, or enrol on a course or accept an invitation to do something that you have been dreaming of for a long time. You think that your ship has come in and this will be the turning point or at least the start of something much better in your life. You tell your friends, post it on Facebook, convince your partner and family that you CAN do this and it is SO right for you and then it happens…....you hit The Wall.
There are many disguises for resistance. It is that old demon that waits just below the surface of your enthusiasm. It is the energy that reminds you of the cupboards that need clearing, the socks that need pairing, the eyebrows that need trimming, the ton of sweet wrappers in your car that you have been meaning to clear out…and at the same time urges you to give your car a full valet inside and out….for the first time ever! Sound familiar? If you are smiling you certainly know what I mean!!! My particular resistance cycle began with eyebrows, wardrobe then garden….and I am not a keen gardener, so I always knew when I was really resisting something!
The questions then is what is there to be afraid of?
Considering all the reasons why we Shadow Dance, there is one main reason why we let the fear of stepping out of the known into the unknown. And that is FEAR. Most commonly there are 4 great fears, although there are many more which spin off from these key 4.
4 Fears that stop you in your tracks:
1. Losing money
2. Losing your home
3. Losing your loved ones
4. Losing your life
So it is natural and sensible to have some degree of resistance when you are considering embarking on a new venture. However, managed properly, none of the so called ‘fears’ are real. Remember that fear is generally – False, Evidence, Appearing, Real.
The truth about resistance:
- It helps by slowing you down so you can thoroughly consider what you are about to undertake
- It acts as a quality check for your thinking before you act
- It offers motivation hidden behind a need for more information
- It is your launch pad for greater things – the greater the resistance the greater the rewards on the other side
Turning up the Volume
Overcoming resistance is a matter of creating new mental habits by focusing on what is true and real rather than what is imagined. Consider these 5 truths:
1. You are here to do something beautiful
2. The people whose lives you touch have been waiting for you
3. What makes your heart sing is what brings greater love to the world
4. Fulfilment comes through taking the journey and seeing your resistance for what it really is
5. By showing up in your life you are inspiring and empowering others to do so without realising it
If you knew that the project, ambition, creative idea you have been nurturing would succeed, when would you start? Who would be the first person you would want to tell about your new direction? What is the first thing you would do to set your course for success. In others words, if failure was not an option, and you knew that you had the personal and spiritual resources to calmly navigate your chosen course…..how would that feel?
In truth, there is that on any day, at any point you can declare yourself ready and able to move forward in the direction of your dreams. Sometimes, more time is spent making excuses and avoiding taking action that it would take to make the first few steps that you could feel really good about!
Most of what causes us to stay in our shadow is the self-talk we listen to. You have a powerful mind and it is in your control. By creating new images of how your life can be you can start to align with the ways to progress gently towards that life.
The fact that you are still reading this says that you are more ready than you think to take the next step. No matter how large of small your idea or creative dream, you can start to make it a reality. In doing so, even though it may be a part of your future-self and not the whole end result, you will be increasing your ability to S.H.I.N.E.
What does it mean to S.H.I.N.E.?
We all have the capacity to follow our heart’s desire, to create or generate something from within us that brings pure satisfaction, fulfilment and joy. When we let go of the external illusion of being measured by outside parameters, then freedom is on the horizon.
To step into your truth in this way means to have your Soul Harmony In Natural Expression – in other words, you are listening and following the song that makes your heart sing, that brings a deep sense of joy and peace, that feels really right and that honours your soul journey and life path at the same time. Can you picture your life in that way?
To help you take the next steps, I have created a guidance pathway
for you. You can download it now
, print it, share it and most of all do it! Through its steps you will be able to focus on discovering your way to S.H.I.N.E. Remember that there is only one requirement…..that you ‘just start’!